If you are a parent, then all you want is for your child to be happy and succeed in life. So when given the opportunity, what parent would not jump at the chance to make their kid’s life easier? Unfortunately, in most cases, this is considered ‘Helicopter Parenting.’
This behavior has parents thinking they are supportive to another level, but in reality, it is hovering over their children like a helicopter — hence the term. This metaphor was first used in a book titled “Between Parent and Teenager,” written by Dr. Haim Ginott, describing the “hyper-involvement in a child’s life.”
It is the complete opposite of free-range parenting, taking away the child’s independence and encouragement. While the term ‘helicopter parenting’ has grown in popularity, it is by no means new. Whether the parent is following a younger child or standing over a teenager’s shoulder as they finish their homework, helicopter parenting comes in many forms.
A parent’s impulse to be involved in their child’s lives often comes from a sense of protection and unconditional love. And, we at New Horizon Academy understand entirely the desire to give the most we can to kids. But, by not resisting helicoptering, it can lead to poor outcomes in adulthood, resulting in a lot of hand-holding.
Are you a Helicopter Parent? Ask yourself these questions:
- Do you keep your kid on a short leash?
- Is your child playing it too safe?
- Will you allow them to fail?
- Are you fighting their battles?
- Do you finish their homework or projects?
- Are you coaching their coaches/teachers?
To help you overcome the hovering, try to let your children discover themselves—their strengths, weaknesses, dreams, and goals. This will help them succeed in the end. Teach them how to try again. Help them understand failure, how it feels, and how to bounce back. That is an essential part of becoming independent in our world.